Loss.

"I guess by now I should know enough about loss to realise that you never really stop missing someone- you just learn how to live around the huge gaping hole of their existence" - Alyson Noel

Experiencing the loss of someone who is close to you is a terrible thing and shouldn't be wished upon anyone. There is so much death and pain in the world that even if you aren't religious, you have to find another way to look at it. Otherwise then why should we bother? Why are we here?

The way I see it, people die when they have given all they can to the world. You might be thinking how could an innocent child have given all they can already? In my view they have. Maybe that child has affected your life so much that you change the world. For example, someone dying of cancer could be the ignition one needs to find a cure for millions of other people. On a smaller scale, even if that person causes you to act differently and therefore changes your actions in other peoples lives, then that's enough. Life is a domino effect.

Although it's a terrible thought, one person dying for another to live, I think it is a beautiful way to look at someones life. That person has served a purpose. That person is loved. That person is important. 

No matter how old, how small, their occupation, location, wealth, status... people are people. They are all important and they all serve a purpose, no matter how big or small. And it is tragic when one is lost. 

When a person passes away, no matter how hard it seems to accept the thought that they won't be in the world anymore, you must go on. You must live with the remembrance of them and with the knowledge that their purpose in life has been fulfilled. It is painful to live in a world that they aren't. But life continues on, time keeps ticking and the world keeps spinning.

There is never an easy way to do it, to move on. I don't think anyone really ever 'moves on'. All we can do is pick ourselves up and keep going. Keep doing whatever it is you are meant to do, eventually things might start to seem normal again. But don't forget...

Celebrate their life.
Celebrate their achievements.
Celebrate their purpose, for it has been fulfilled. 

Love, Nicole Marie